I often mutter this quote under my breath: "There are things you think, there are things you say, and a wise person knows the difference." I speak it mostly when I am discussing any topic under the category Academia.
A wise person also follows his own advice, yes? Therein lies the dilemma - easier said than done.
Quandary: When do you tell someone they've offended you, if at all?
There - now that I've typed it out, I can actually think about it.
I guess it all comes down to purpose, doesn't it? What would be my purpose in telling the offenders I was hurt?
To inform them? Okay, whose good is that for? Mine, because I want to get it off my chest? Theirs, just so they know?
To persuade them to not do it again? Perhaps, but what if it wasn't an intentional offense in the first place? That complicates matters.
To be understood? To convey emotion? To make a connection?
Nah, I can't really come across a purpose that justifies making my disappointment known. It would probably strain relations, cause tension - all for an issue that I could work through internally, on my own.
I must have a high-threshold for broadcasting disappointment - anyone want to weigh in on this?