06 March 2012

More GBNB (Get Better, Not Bitter)

To know more about the meaning about the acronym and phrase above, see this post here.

I have struggled mightily with this concept in the last several days. 

First, I frequently have let others frustrate me.  And then, I'm like an egg...once I become cracked, even a very little bit, my fragility skyrockets.

Consequently, I've indulged in a little self-scourging because of the above behavior.  I know my happiness does not depend on what others do or don't do; I mean, I can't control them...but recently, I've also felt like I can't control my own reaction to them either.  And I've really hated feeling this way...like I'm solely sustained by other people, instead of being my own independent person.

So.  Today was a bit of a breaking point.  I'm thankful that I know people who remind me to step back, rethink, and let it go. 

Anyone who spends a fair amount of time here knows how much I love my quotes.  So, I'll chuck two up here (probably been used before) that seem to encapsulate a new WYWH mindset.

From Dr. Seuss:

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”

From Eleanor Roosevelt:

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."*

I'm not going to give my consent anymore when it comes to letting others make me feel inferior.  And, I'm going to do what I always do, without any expectation of response, action, or acceptance from somebody else...unless they matter.



(*a website called www.quoteinvestigator.com claims this quote cannot be traced to Roosevelt, with research to prove it.  But, the website is maintained by a Garson O'Toole, who has a PhD from Yale in Computer Science.  According to the website's "About" section, Dr. O'Toole "diligently seeks the truth about quotations."  Remember - anyone can say anything out here on the Internet...so caveat researcher.  Let the researcher beware.)

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